Bout time this thread got a bump.
Anyway;
Currently (have been for months) going through a weird phase where I constantly feel pressed for time in my relationship. It honestly feels like time is running out all too quickly. Any of you more intelligent fellas know what this could be down to? I'm willing to bet it's down to some insecurity on my part, but is there a way to combat it?
Thanks in advance
Welshy,
For starters, I'm only 17, but here's some of my advice, and personal experience. Please don't judge by my age, as I really think it isn't a factor for this.
My girlfriend and I have been together for 9 months now. It's a strong relationship, and both feel very attached to each other. Every adult we have met tells us how were like an old married couple and so on and so forth. We haven't had a major fight yet..Kinda.
Ok, the kinda part you're wondering?
Two days before Christmas, both my pride and joys got stolen from my house. I've been working since I was 12 to get them, and both my bikes and I have been through a lot together. I was absolutely shattered. What made it worse was the girlfriend was going away to America for 3 weeks with her and a male basketball team, and I to, have struggled with slight depression. I trusted her completely, but not some of the guys on the team, which she would be sleeping near. Alas, She went away, and all I could feel was emptiness because I had nothing to do, and I was so used to spending almost everyday with her and it had all stopped. I didn't get very much communication with her so was only able to talk every could of days. What made it worse was the fact a few days into her leaving, I had found two family members that I am very close to, are soon to pass. On top of this my family was having trouble and all it was was fights each night and on the verge of people moving out etc.. Even more so on this, a few of my close friends and I decided to go our own ways, but not very peacefully. As you can imagine, there wasn't much left for me and I was close to breaking down entirely.
The girlfriend got back, and her mother had formed a very large 'vendetta' against me. She sent me two abusive text messages saying how I am a spoilt brat and the most selfish person she has ever, ever met and that I should just get out of there family's lives. I was taken aback as we had been getting along well before the girlfriend left. This whole holiday period I was looking forward to the girlfriend coming away with my family for a few days and then me going with theirs for a few in return. This was the thought i had been holding on to that was keeping me together in the one piece. As you can imagine, at this I lost it at this point and swung from a almost depressed mood into a complete break down. Not suicidal thoughts, not cutting my self, but endless tears and sitting on 2 story house roofs for hours on end (I find comfort in high places).
Moral of the story you ask?
I almost lost the thing I love most in this world because of the break down. I had her in tears watching me walk along a roof (even though i was never contemplating to jump). I had formed to many insecure thoughts on our relationship during the time she was away that I couldn't take it anymore if I had found out something had happened. After ward's she told me that she was having similar insecure thoughts while she was away. Neither of us ever considered cheating, or not trusting each other, but rather not trusting the other people around ourselves. Both of us feel that these insecure thoughts could have ended our amazing relationship if assumptions had formed.
So the moral of the moral.
As hard as it is, don't let the thoughts of insecurity ruin a perfectly good relationship. If you love each other, things will work out in the end, and all should be good. You both need to let each other branch out and spend time with opposite genders and other friends, and the relationship will work better. If she's overseas, let her have fun! Don't bring her down while she's away, or it will only have a negative effect.
I'm not so sure that's an answer to your question, but I think it's good that you know you have someone else in a similar situation to you Welshy. Sorry if none of the above post made sense!
EDIT:
Found the post that you posted originally that I based my 'help' off.
Hmm, true to that.
I'm honestly finding the hardest part of my relationship at the moment is to truly believe her when she says it. Hell, by no means am I saying it's bad, or that she doesn't show her love, but making yourself completely vulnerable is a scary move.
We've been together for 6 months tomorrow, (yes I know, not all that long term) and I can honestly say i wouldn't change anything.
Okay, all bright and happy, right? She's leaving for Europe on Sunday, a 2 month trip that will see her return late January. She's absolutely terrified she'll come home to find me gone (by which i don't just mean other girls, I've had a lot of trouble with depression in the past) and it's killing her.
All of you wise guys, any ideas to convince her I'll be there? I've given her a book with photographs and special things in it, but i need something more substantial.
Thanks in advance.
),hang in there. 
