I don't think any rotor rub is acceptable, and I am constantly fiddling to get mine clear.
Every time I rebuild my hub, or take the rotor off for whatever reason it always 'chings' a few times on each rotation when I put it back together.
I am like you, but I actually do have OCD so here's a few things that I have noticed.
Sometimes, it can be a matter of a fraction of a millimeter, and it may be rectified by the minute difference that's made when you either tighten or loosen your QR skewer by a quarter of a turn. Or less.
Another thing I have done is place a small piece of foil folded two or three times in between the dropout and axle and sandwich it in there before you tighten your QR skewer. Push down hard on the wheel first to make sure it settles. It only needs to be very thin, don't go putting wads of the stuff in there. Try each dropout and see which one works. I know this sounds really ghetto but the difference of only a fraction of a degree in the rotors angle can make a difference... When you have OCD.
Also, you can take out the brake pad(s) and get some very fine sand paper and take a small amount off. You will find that rotor rub is usually on the high or the low side of the pad so just round the edges of the top and bottoms first before you go wittling the bulk off and see if it helps. They disappear pretty quick on the grit so use something fine like 400 grit. And take it easy.
One more thing, you know the little X style spring steel clips that hold the pads in against the pistons? Get some needle nosed pliers and ever so slightly bend them outwards so that when the brake lever is not engaged there is absoluteley no chance of any space being between the pad and piston.
When straightening the rotor, Find a quiet spot, turn off the tele/radio so you can really hear every little 'ching'.
I find that putting your bike on a workstand / milk crate / whatever you can find and I get a torch and place it in a sneaker pointing up (if it's too bright put some paper over the torch), and shine it up through the brake housing as I spin the wheel.
This helps as it silhouettes the rotor and brake assembly against the light background and makes it really easy to see when and where the rotor is rubbing as it comes into contact with the pad. Or you could just put a piece of white paper on the ground... But I have OCD, so it's the torch for me.
I have 180mm rotors on deore centrelock hubs.
It's just a matter of not rushing it and setting some time aside to just nail it.
Good luck!