link1896
Mr Greenfield
You’d like to beta test my new over sized bottle cage?
House Husbands
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気が狂っている男
I did a school pick up for some friends of mine once. My mate couldn't get a park so he lapped the block and I went in to collect their son from kindergarten. I think I was within a bees dick of getting arrested! Schools (rightly so) get a bit suspicious of usual changes to well established afternoon routines and no matter how enthusiastic the young fellow was for me to be picking him up the teacher wasn't having a bar of it. Fortunately the age of mobile phones came to the rescue.
That really depends on your line of work.
...and looking after your kids isn't baby sitting!
Do it!
Being the breadwinner, I got a taste of doing domestic duties during this pandemic and it is more rewarding spending time with your kids, than slogging away at the computer on some document you know will be buried and forgotten in x years time. The closer connection as the kids unload their day on you at pickup is great, and also knowing what is happening at school, what they're learning or what they're weaknesses are helps you have conversations with them, again strengthening the relationship.
I'm now torn between the sense of achievement from working and making big decisions, to seeing the simple things like my kids nail a jump or learn something about the world they live in.
If you're not the sort to want to claw your way to the top of the corporate food chain, you'll be able to re-integrate back into a working life if you feel you want to down the track.
Being the breadwinner, I got a taste of doing domestic duties during this pandemic and it is more rewarding spending time with your kids, than slogging away at the computer on some document you know will be buried and forgotten in x years time. The closer connection as the kids unload their day on you at pickup is great, and also knowing what is happening at school, what they're learning or what they're weaknesses are helps you have conversations with them, again strengthening the relationship.
I'm now torn between the sense of achievement from working and making big decisions, to seeing the simple things like my kids nail a jump or learn something about the world they live in.
If you're not the sort to want to claw your way to the top of the corporate food chain, you'll be able to re-integrate back into a working life if you feel you want to down the track.
link1896
Mr Greenfield
Or start a home based small business that dovetails into family life
Litenbror
Eats Squid
Bathtub Gin
Thanks for asking but it wont start for a while. Contract signed on weekend but she needs to phase out of current work over the next few months. Aim is to move and start house husbanding end of this year. Looking forward to finding new trails!
House Husband - Week 7
Thought I would give an update on this thread. We moved up to the Sunshine Coast straight after Christmas and had a couple weeks till wife went back to work. It is beautiful up here. So much nicer than being in Brisbane but the humidity seems a lot higher. We have a pool and privacy and it feels like we are on holidays. Near Caloundra and it's very bogan up here. Had a family at about 7pm in Woolworths with no shirts on where one kid scootered down the aisle and then the 3 year old walked fast paced straight into my trolley as he was looking down.
Day 1 of the kids being at school started off well. I was anxious about the boys starting a new school and was super prepared. Even had two of the eldest's timetables and uniform schedule laminated (one for school, one for home). First day he changed classes and got a new timetable. Got those laminated so all good and chuck the others out. On the second day it turns out too many people got switched so he got sent back to the other class...
Youngest hated it for the first few weeks and was in tears. Even told me home schooling was a good idea (He cried 10 mins into home schooling when I did it during covid). As for me I sent heaps of funny messages and pics to my brother about being retired and have since started telling people I am an influencer.
From then on though I felt guilty about leaving the house unless it was to do shopping or something for the family. Even thought having the aircon on was a waste just for myself. I realised I was so used to sitting in front of a computer all day for the last 16 years that a few times I even just sat in front of it doing nothing, not even doom scrolling, just looking at a blank screen. I would love to just go walk or swim at the beach but it just feels bad of me to enjoy that freedom while they are working or at school. It wouldn't worry my wife if I did, but still.
I have ridden the ebike 4 times since my big crash at the end of last year. Confidence was completely gone even on basic simple stuff. Getting better but it's not the same. Now that we are near the beach again I started surfing. Got a new board and nearly drowned trying to go out in the recent cyclone swell. Realised how much I need to rebuild my arm strength so am doing some rowing machine and need to start off small. The waves aren't the same as what I am used to growing up. They are very full up here and seem to be hard to pickup. So I am not sure I made the right choice of board and probably should have got a mini-mal or longboard. Might try one of those MF soft boards so the rest of the family can use it too.
While I know it's not good for me long term, I am pretty happy just being by myself. I've had a little bit of remote work to do and got some more lined up but haven't done as much as I thought I would. If I can earn some bits of money here and there then I would be happy to do more.
Cheers
MAS
Thought I would give an update on this thread. We moved up to the Sunshine Coast straight after Christmas and had a couple weeks till wife went back to work. It is beautiful up here. So much nicer than being in Brisbane but the humidity seems a lot higher. We have a pool and privacy and it feels like we are on holidays. Near Caloundra and it's very bogan up here. Had a family at about 7pm in Woolworths with no shirts on where one kid scootered down the aisle and then the 3 year old walked fast paced straight into my trolley as he was looking down.
Day 1 of the kids being at school started off well. I was anxious about the boys starting a new school and was super prepared. Even had two of the eldest's timetables and uniform schedule laminated (one for school, one for home). First day he changed classes and got a new timetable. Got those laminated so all good and chuck the others out. On the second day it turns out too many people got switched so he got sent back to the other class...
Youngest hated it for the first few weeks and was in tears. Even told me home schooling was a good idea (He cried 10 mins into home schooling when I did it during covid). As for me I sent heaps of funny messages and pics to my brother about being retired and have since started telling people I am an influencer.
From then on though I felt guilty about leaving the house unless it was to do shopping or something for the family. Even thought having the aircon on was a waste just for myself. I realised I was so used to sitting in front of a computer all day for the last 16 years that a few times I even just sat in front of it doing nothing, not even doom scrolling, just looking at a blank screen. I would love to just go walk or swim at the beach but it just feels bad of me to enjoy that freedom while they are working or at school. It wouldn't worry my wife if I did, but still.
I have ridden the ebike 4 times since my big crash at the end of last year. Confidence was completely gone even on basic simple stuff. Getting better but it's not the same. Now that we are near the beach again I started surfing. Got a new board and nearly drowned trying to go out in the recent cyclone swell. Realised how much I need to rebuild my arm strength so am doing some rowing machine and need to start off small. The waves aren't the same as what I am used to growing up. They are very full up here and seem to be hard to pickup. So I am not sure I made the right choice of board and probably should have got a mini-mal or longboard. Might try one of those MF soft boards so the rest of the family can use it too.
While I know it's not good for me long term, I am pretty happy just being by myself. I've had a little bit of remote work to do and got some more lined up but haven't done as much as I thought I would. If I can earn some bits of money here and there then I would be happy to do more.
Cheers
MAS
Your spare time is better spent on you than worrying about enjoying it. A beach walk for example is healthy whereas idling but staying home is not. You sound like your day is planned very well so take advantage of that. Enjoy being self unemployed.
Flow-Rider
Burner
Bugger what other people think, if they were in your position they would be lapping it up. I'd be doing some rides around the suburbs.
Oddjob
Merry fucking Xmas to you assholes
Whatever you do, don't watch About a Boy.
Seriously though, you sound like you're a creature of routine. So use it to your advantage, develop a daily gym/ride routine that slots in with parenting/home duties and you'll be ripped in about 6 months.
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steve jobs' pancreas
Eats Squid
get a mal and go hang with the oldies at moffs
frenchman
Eats cheese. Sells crack.
@mas2 sounds like you should probably start doing some trail building. Cut in a few freshies, it’ll be good exercise and if you feel guilty think of it as giving back to the community.
Otherwise could always do a couple of community bike shed days, I really enjoyed doing them when I was out of work.
Otherwise could always do a couple of community bike shed days, I really enjoyed doing them when I was out of work.
Have you considered a drug addiction to ease your mind about doing nothing? It may well help with the surfing too.
In seriousness, it’s good your conscious of all those issues and feelings and I’m sure you’ll work into it and become comfortable with the role and contribution you are providing for the family.
In seriousness, it’s good your conscious of all those issues and feelings and I’m sure you’ll work into it and become comfortable with the role and contribution you are providing for the family.
Thanks for the comments.
I've put a list a couple days ago on the fridge to try and record that I am doing one fun/personal active thing every day.
@steve jobs' pancreas - Yeh I noticed a lot of old mal rider dudes hanging out there. Think I might get one of those soft board mals so the family can use it too.
@frenchman - Both trail building and bike shed days sound like a good idea. Where would I find the community bike shed days?
I've put a list a couple days ago on the fridge to try and record that I am doing one fun/personal active thing every day.
@steve jobs' pancreas - Yeh I noticed a lot of old mal rider dudes hanging out there. Think I might get one of those soft board mals so the family can use it too.
@frenchman - Both trail building and bike shed days sound like a good idea. Where would I find the community bike shed days?
rextheute
Likes Bikes and Dirt
Do things for you .
Its hard to break the habits of being the ‘ provider ‘, but your role has shifted , look after yourself and then you will be able to look after your loved ones
- sounds a bit wanky and ‘ influencer ‘ but time is the only thing you cannot get more of or go back and bank .
Walk the kids to school , or home - they’ ll hate it ( maybe ) but it’s time with them , ride your bike.
Even it’s it’s to meet your wife for lunch - as a surprise dear !
She may be too far , to too busy ? book it in then .
Your time is valuable , use it to advantage , give no fucks a bout what others think or do - it’s for you and your family to be happy and relaxed.
We often forget the simple things , work to live , not survive the rat race .
Where you live sounds beautiful , walk and take it in , volunteer your time , maybe you have skills that could help others.
Life is to be lived and enjoyed
Its hard to break the habits of being the ‘ provider ‘, but your role has shifted , look after yourself and then you will be able to look after your loved ones
- sounds a bit wanky and ‘ influencer ‘ but time is the only thing you cannot get more of or go back and bank .
Walk the kids to school , or home - they’ ll hate it ( maybe ) but it’s time with them , ride your bike.
Even it’s it’s to meet your wife for lunch - as a surprise dear !
She may be too far , to too busy ? book it in then .
Your time is valuable , use it to advantage , give no fucks a bout what others think or do - it’s for you and your family to be happy and relaxed.
We often forget the simple things , work to live , not survive the rat race .
Where you live sounds beautiful , walk and take it in , volunteer your time , maybe you have skills that could help others.
Life is to be lived and enjoyed